Thu, 10 May 2012 08:58:59 -0800WeeblyWed, 11 Apr 2012 22:07:50 -0800http://www.turnyourlifearound.com.au/2/post/2012/04/soulful-sounds.htmlIn recent years  I’ve come to realise my intense dislike to loud music or sounds – It’s almost as if an intrusive alien onslaught of harsh noise clamps onto my highly sensitive ears!  I’ve no doubt it began when my children were small and I grew sensitive to the wails and shrieks and explosions of sound that would interrupt my peaceful  interludes.

Of course when I was younger I would love the thrill of boisterous, thumping, rock music!   I was an avid ‘stayer’, forever being the last one to leave a party as my fingers sought the volume dial to find the loudest sound possible!  Back then, loud music felt good to me.  Back then, the sole purpose of music was to drown out my senses.

Not so long ago I decided the chatter of talk back radio was negative and depressing and searched for alternatives.  In doing so, I rediscovered  the relationship between me and the hum of the road, the songs of the birds, rumbling of the train, whatever was around that I could tune into.  A sense of peace began to creep into my life.  I even stumbled across a radio station that honoured its’ operatic music.  Opera proved a godsend on the occasions when I was upset.  The uplifting sounds of the instruments seemed to have their own language that would resonate with the unrest within me and set forth to life my mood.  More recently, I feel a wise being within has awakened as I tune into the amplified glory of listening to gentle, soothing sounds.

Consider also the sounds of running water, fire crackling or chimes ringing.  Powerful! 

We are all aware of the physiological changes that occur in brain waves, heart rate and respiration when we tune into different sounds.  A fast beat, for example, can cause the heartbeat, respiration and brain waves to speed-up.  If you slow down the beat, it will slow brain wave activity and create shifts in heartbeat and respiration.  This knowledge is particularly timely in our world of worry, anxiety and stress.

A few years ago I read of a council that was considering installing speakers into laneways and playing operatic music with the idea of discouraging groups of youths from hanging out there.   I thought it was a wildly bright idea.  Unfortunately, I don’t believe the project went ahead.

Can you imagine what it would be like to hear crystal clear joyful music coming from the speakers of your local primary school?  What sort of mood might these school children shift into?  Perhaps bullying and aggression would dissolve to become a problem of the past.  We can only imagine until someone takes the initiative and gives these new ideas and visions a go.

Driven by the frustration of boisterous and agitated behaviours, I tried my newfound relaxation music on my family!  I know without a doubt that when calm music is dispersed in my home, noise dissipates, everyone is calmer.  They’re  pretty much  oblivious to what’s going on behind the scenes!   I feel magical, like I’m engaging a sound shield!

If you are like me and sensitive to sound, could you be open to rediscovering the sounds that feel good to you so you can introduce a sense of ease and peace into your day.  There are numerous different types of sounds out there – try googling music such as opera, meditation, blues, baroque, gospel, whatever takes your fancy!

The use of sound as a healing tool dates back thousands of years.  Now, that the field of sound healing is gaining considerable attention, why not re embrace this methodology and use it to your advantage in our present world.    

What sounds is your soul longing to hear?
]]>Wed, 21 Dec 2011 21:59:40 -0800http://www.turnyourlifearound.com.au/2/post/2011/12/-wishing-you-a-christmas-of-joy.htmlThis Christmas season, let us be thankful for what we have.  Let us be joyful for who we are.  Let us be appreciative for our relationships - friends and family.  Even though we may not always get along, we are in this world for a reason, to develop closer connections with each other.  The internet has certainly helped us connect with the entire world.  When disaster strikes another place, we know it within minutes.  I envisage a year in 2012 when we can create a greener cleaner planet and share our wealth with the poor and needy worldwide.

Thanks for supporting me throughout the year.  I do tend to take the bull by the horns at times and run with whatever I see as being important to our community.  Sometimes things don't work out quite the way I expect and that's okay.  I have learned many times that there is no failure in life, only feedback as I move closer to doing and being what I love to experience.

Christmas Hints for Happiness

Feeling Grateful:

At the dinner table, have everyone share what they feel grateful for this year.  This has the added bonus of making everyone feel closely connected.

Be Kind:
Be mindful that small actions can create deep appreciation.  Find out what you can do to assist that is out of the ordinary.  Move out of your comfort zone and look for ways to be kind such as smiling at a stranger, paying for someone else's coffee or even approaching that family member you dislike and choosing to focus on their most positive qualities.  Kind deeds have the power to transform your world and the world around you. 

Make someone laugh:
 What's the funniest thing that happened to you this year? Tell that funny story and watch the faces around you light up!

Enjoy a very Merry Christmas and I look forward to connecting with you in 2012

Best wishes to you & yours, 
Koti

 

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www.turnyourlifearound.com.au ]]>Wed, 26 Oct 2011 01:33:13 -0800http://www.turnyourlifearound.com.au/2/post/2011/10/first-post.htmlWe live with an abundance of food, yet are suffering from malnutrition.   We are a nation of food junkies and no wonder when our dinner plates are larger than ever before, we’re faced with sugar fixes in almost every outlet we visit and we don’t know how to let go of our cravings and eat what’s healthy.    

Why do we find it so hard to eat what’s good and right for us?  We suffer in silence, craving and gorging sugar treats like an addict searches for a heroin hit.  It’s no surprise we have many illnesses directly relating to the supply of nutrition we are NOT giving to our bodies.

Our bodies were only ever designed to accept vital and healthy nutrition.

Imagine a hot steamy donut.  The smell and taste are luring our senses.  We’re trying hard to resist and not indulge.  Then a moment of weakness as we pounce upon the donut, ultimately leading to feelings of guilt, shame, regret as we tell ourselves, we really do know better.

Your conscious mind is all about your wants, while your subconscious mind is about your protection, your beliefs, and your safety. If your conscious mind wants one thing but your subconscious mind wants another, then you are heading for disappointment. This includes dieting and losing weight. If we do happen to lose weight, we’ll retain an overwhelming subconscious urge to gain it back. 

So what to do when your conscious and subconscious mind are pulling in different directions?   

It helps to become present to what we are choosing.  Slowing down to deliberately channel our focus intently on what we would prefer to experience, we not only switch out of auto pilot, we get to taste the goodness of real food!
 
Only by repeating that conscious decision will the choice eventually slip into our subconscious programming. 
 
On that note, we can also adopt new habits of eating slowly and mindfully, to easily gauge when we are feeling uncomfortable and our tummies are full. 

Are you sick: of allowing junk food to control you?   If you would like to release the misunderstandings between your conscious and your subconscious minds to reach a state of congruence for your successful eating patterns, consider a coaching session and watch your life move forward once and for all. 


Best wishes, Koti
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"Everyone on the planet deserves good health"
 
Affirmation:  "The only thing I ever have any control of is my current thinking.  This thought, the one I am thinking now, is totally under my control. ]]>Tue, 30 Aug 2011 00:00:00 -0800http://www.turnyourlifearound.com.au/2/post/2011/08/effective-listening-skills.html Effective Listening "See first to understand, then to be understood" Stephen Covey Have you ever been involved in a conversation where you are the speaker and in disbelief, you notice your listener shift their eyes to somewhere over your shoulder! 

We are all guilty from time to time.  Instead of listening, we are focused anywhere but on the speaker.  Preparing what we are going to say, or thoughts about what we are doing later, or what’s on our to-do-list.  Distracting thoughts which are only serving to create a dis-connection.  And no wonder we fail to listen

We know when we’re not being listened to – we can feel insulted which creates pain and resentment, when we know they haven’t heard a word.  How many times have you been 'listening' to someone - but not heard a word they said? You weren't concentrating!  Hearing is passive, while listening is an active process.
 
When we choose to actively listen to our partners, the communication lines open.  Sadly, this very simple tool can be the missing link in a relationship.  Funny how when we first met, we are all ears then as time evolves, we develop selective hearing and unconsciously ‘tune out’.  Tuning in is the key to love, connection and healing the communication breakdown.
actively when we have distractions like facebook, ipods, phones, and overwhelmingly to- do-lists.
Effective listening is a communication technique that requires the listener to understand, interpret, and evaluate what (s)he hears.
The ability to actively listen will allow a space that feels safe to voice concerns, strengthen ties and foster understanding in our personal relationships.

Feeling completely listened to, is a gift of love.   It’s no wonder our kids rebel when parents talk over the top of them.  We sometimes forget that our kids have feelings, that they too have a voice and deserve to say what’s on their mind without interruption.  Unfortunately most of us parents were never given the gift of listening from our parents.  Remember the old saying, children should be seen and not heard.  A recipe bound to incite rebellion!


Whether its kids, friends or family we all deserve to be listened to, completely.  When we are listened to, we feel:  Important - Grateful - Respected.
 

Tips for Activating your Listening Skills:

 Love - focus your undivided attention on communicating with love
  Interested - consider with curiosity how they are feeling
 Silent - stay silent & allow them to fully articulate what they want to say
  Truthful - when we feel safe to speak our truth we feel validated
 Empathy - listen to understand where they are coming from
  Neutral - let go of your own agenda & have complete focus


The more you do it, the easier active listening will become and your reward will be happier, harmonious relationships!
 

]]>Tue, 24 May 2011 00:00:00 -0800http://www.turnyourlifearound.com.au/2/post/2011/05/master-your-addictions.html Are you like the old me?  Give up the smokes and take up nicorettes or other drugs or alcohol or binge eating. Do you go from one addiction to the other? Of course you try and try and try again to give up and eventually you succeed! Hooray! But guess what – you find a new addiction and the whole cycle begins again.

My most scary addiction was gambling – “ scary” because no one knew about my gambling except me. I became invisible. I would disappear for hours in a day and would return home again only to feel a deep sense of guilt.  But I had it all under control (so I thought!).  I would cook the evening meal in the morning so I had the day free to gamble at my leisure.  I became super human with all my mundane activities when all I had on my mind were the bells and ringing of that poker machine.  I could create a meal and I didn’t really care what it was as long as I had all the ingredients to make it quickly. I was numb from feeling the creativity of cooking, I was numb and couldn’t feel love for my family I was numb from feeling love for myself. It was all so surreal. I felt alone and disconnected.

If only someone had told me back then, that I needed to begin to like myself to have respect and treat myself with compassion, I would have had a different attitude.  My need to gamble would have melted away.   I would have gained the strength I needed to feel good about myself, rather than feeling needy for a life where I was never going to be the winner.

Whether it's gambling, smoking, drugs, sex or food…. It really doesn’t matter.  What does matter is it all boils down to you not being in love with YOU. It is a loss of self pride and dignity.

Ever heard the phrase, emotional eating?  Well “emotional” applies to every addiction. The emotion is what’s driving the addiction. The emotion behind a story from your past. We don’t want to let go of the sadness, the grief, the resentment or the anger.

There is an emptiness inside us that needs to be filled. We have a choice to fill our emptiness with an addiction or fill it with a greater love and acceptance of ourselves.
If we want to deeply appreciate who we are right now we have to be willing to accept responsibility, dump the story and move forward with our lives. We can then move beyond our addictions to free and light as the need for a crutch outside of ourselves diminishes.

All it takes is a little soul searching to remind us that we don’t need addictions. They really exist to alert us of a need to change. What we think we really need, we already have – it’s just a matter of reconnecting within to find the courage and conviction to create who we want to be in the face of adversity.




Enjoy your Day,
Koti



]]>Wed, 30 Mar 2011 00:00:00 -0800http://www.turnyourlifearound.com.au/2/post/2011/03/listening-to-your-intuition.html Do you remember the last time an idea just popped into your mind, which you then chose to ignore and later kicked yourself for not acting on that first idea?  "I knew that was gonna happen", "I should've listened to myself".  That idea, first impulse or whisper is your sixth sense in action - also known as intuition, a hunch,  inner guidance, angelic guides or psychic sense that is steering you in the right direction.

How do we know intuition is guiding us in the right direction?  Intuition is our inner knowing, the wise part of us that knows all the answers.  It delights us with insights, knowings and gut feelings in reply to our questions and problems and we often respond with "where did that come from"?, calling it an "ah ah" moment.  It may even be a subtle answer that you think is coming from your own mind.

From birth we all are blessed with an endless stream of intuition, but if our channels are blocked the messages can't get through to us.  A clear channel is essential to receive good clear communication.  If I am busy, my mind is stressed or my thoughts are scattered, my channel is blocked and will not receive messages of intuition.


My intuition saved my mum thousands of dollars.  Let me explain.  A few years ago, mum sold her house and purchased a unit. All members of our family (including me) thought that I held the Title in my home.  However, as I began to search for the house Title,  I began to panic. That document was invisible. Vanished!  I searched every corner, every drawer, cupboard, box and shelf I could find as I  began to dread the future.  In sheer panic, I rang my brother who also  ransacked his entire home!  I prepared to forego a holiday with my family to stay home and sort out the mess.   Reluctantly, I made an appointment to see the bank that would in a few more days hand over the bridging finance at great expense. I prayed & implored "please help me" to the skies above.

A couple of days later, I was compelled to sift through my bedside drawer to look for a nail file.  A voice whispered to me to direct my attention towards an envelope.  Yes, you guessed it, the Title!   After I had calmed down,  my intuitive message came to me clearly as my mind was empty of any confusion, anxiety or frustration.

Too often we stick to using only five of our six senses.  How limiting!  Our sixth sense is genius.  Yes, YOUR genius.   This wise tool is at your disposal 24/7.  What's more, it's free!

Richard Branson, Oprah Winfrey, and Bill Gates have it and they know how to use it to create amazing success! Fact is, that you do not have to be a psychic with a crystal ball to be intuitive! It is a lot simpler than that.


Allow me to invite you to a coaching session where we can explore further how you can tap into and develop your endless supply of your Sixth Sense.  You can contact me at turnyourlifearound@bigpond.com.

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